Trust Your Dopeness

The essential thing I have learned in my life is when a person is insecure, they will use words of discouragement to tear down your confidence. When I wasn’t aware of my dopeness, I would minimize my greatness to make others feel more important, but deep inside, I was suffering. My suffering led to people-pleasing, self-sabotage, and not feeling worthy or enough.

When I began to cultivate self-worth, let go of self-sabotaging behaviors and flow into a self-confident version of myself, others became threatened. I was no longer dimming my light for them to feel better about themselves. I decided to love myself, face my inner issues and let go of my insecurities.  

However, I believe we all have to face the ugly mask of insecurity in our lives, but when these inner issues are unchecked, it creates self-misery. I have learned over the last year that insecure women are fixated on being accepted and validated by others. Their greatest fear is not being liked, so they migrate to the people-pleasing lane, and when another woman radiates confidence, she will spew words of hate to disempower another woman.

Although friendships have withered away, I understand that losing myself is no longer an option. Trusting your dopeness means walking in your confidence and being unapologetic about who you are.

Here are a couple ways you can embrace being “that girl” and exercise your dopeness.

1. Be Authentic: Know who you are, walk in your power and maximize your voice.
2. Be Unapologetic: God created you to be the best verison of yourself even when others don’t embrace you.
3.  Be Around People Who Want To See You Win: When you are around people who want to see you win then, the conversations are different. Make sure you let go of toxic connections in your life (heal from toxicity).

How To Embrace Your Entrepreneur Spirit….

You can listen to this podcast episode here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2qZ1cuf-S6c

My story….

In 2007, I started my journey into the entrepreneurial world when I self-published my first book entitled, Soulseeker. I had no idea what steps to take as a newly published author; however, I knew stepping out of my comfort zone was a start. I was nervous yet excited about this new journey. I made plenty of mistakes, but I learned some valuable lessons along the way.

As I went through the self-publishing journey, I realize the importance of branding your business/yourself, marketing, and building relationships. When social media began, I learn how to get my product in front of a virtual world. In 2009, I created my first business called The Writer’s Block, where I did copywriting, editing, and created content for other creative professionals. I traveled around the United States, getting paid to perform poetry at special events. I would make contracts with my clients explaining terms, conditions, and my fee.

Fast-forwarding to now, I can proudly say I have self-publish six paperbacks, one eBook and gain valuable knowledge on how to help new writers and authors avoid the pitfalls I made at the beginning of my journey. This year I launch my publishing company called Serenity Publishing LLC and working on other business ventures.

Serenity Publishing will provide e-courses for new writers & authors who need guidance on social media marketing, branding, and marketing.

Here are three ways to embrace your entrepreneurial journey & stop putting your dreams of owning your own business on hold:

1. Just Start. You will never be ready. Have faith let go of the fear & leap.

2. Let the fear of failure go.
The only failure you can endure is the failure of not living your dream.

3. Believe in yourself.
The best way to believe in yourself is invest in yourself whether it is an online course, business/life coach, webinar or seminar.

You can listen to this podcast episode here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2qZ1cuf-S6c

Losing The Weight…..

When you think of the words “losing the weight” I am sure a flood of ideas come to your mind. These three words can be interpreted in various ways but, for me losing the weight has been my 2018 journey. In the last five months I have found myself lost in translation, no longer identifying with my old system of beliefs but embracing new beliefs. The things I allowed to define me no longer could fit into my new belief system.

Fear was a weight that held me back from living my best life. Once I began to lose the weight of fear I began to see my life unfold. When you allow fear to run your life you stay in a comfort zone. And you know nothing brilliant or great grows from comfort zones.

Below is a few ideas to help you lose the weight of fear:

1. Do It Afraid. In order to face your fears you have to be brave enough to do it in the midst of your fear.

2. Assess Your Beliefs. More than likely what you fear is not supported by truth or fact so let it go and collect new data. F.E.A.R is False Evidence Appearing Real!

3. Feed Faith, Starve Fears. In order to weaken the hold of fear you have to be willing to starve it and feed your life with faith which creates confidence.

4. Rock Confidence. Fear can’t reside where confidence overrides. In order to fear-less you have to believe in yourself. Confidence gives you the faith to conquer fear.

So, which idea will you use this week to help you lose the weight of fear. Comment below in the comment section…