5 Reasons Why You Are Settling!

I believe there has been times in your life where you settled for less. Settling in any area of your life can be detrimental to your growth. Settling is synonymous to mediocrity and will keep you in a state of stagnancy.

When you begin to gain clarity in your life you will begin to raise the bar. But first it is important that you become  aware of why you have settled for less. Below are five reasons to help you understand why you are settling for less in your life .

1) Fear. Many times we settle for less because of fear. We fear the unknown so we choose to stay in our comfort zone. However, nothing extraordinary ever grows from a comfort zone. So, it is important to let the fear go and launch out into the unknown. Life happens outside your comfort zone.

2) Uncertainty. Another reason we settle for less than we deserve is because we are unsure about what we want. If you are struggling with knowing what you want in your life it may be time to explore life. Exploring life will help you discover the things you may want in your life. When you go through a period of self-discovery it will expose you to the world. Each life experience we help you gain clarity on the  life you truly want to live.

3) Impatience. When you are impatient it can make you miss out on your greatest life. Many people settle for less because they are too impatient to wait for what they really want in life. When you wait patiently for what you really want you alleviate  unnecessary stress. So, wait patiently for what you want!

4) Not Knowing Your Worth. If you do not know your worth you will settle for the wrong things. If you do not spend time to build your self-worth, self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem you will discount your worth. I have learned in my life that people will treat you how you treat yourself. It is important to nurture love and confidence within yourself so you can recognize your worth.

5) Mediocrity. The last reason we settle in life because we become okay with mediocrity. We become comfortable with just existing instead of living a life to our fullest potential. Mediocrity keeps you stagnant and it creates procrastination.  You will never be fulfilled with a mediocre life. So, let go of mediocrity so you can grab hold to an extraordinary life.

Action Tip: This week take some time to focus on how you can stop settling in your life by putting one of the five reasons into practice.

In the comments below share with me the reasons you have settled for less in your life. 

Be Brilliant.

She was radiant but others were jealous of her shine, so she tried to fit in but they constantly rejected her. She wanted to be apart of the crowd but she forgot one important thing….She was brilliant. She was a light; unique and appealing. While others blended in she was a colorful being; engaging and intense. She had an intensity that drove people mad because she was a genius in her own right. She was brilliant and forgot that she was the salt of the Earth!

As women we sometimes try to hide who we really are for the sake of fitting in the crowd. When we shrink to make others feel important then we are denying ourselves the right to shine. Once we embrace the fact that we are smart, witty and fun then we will never hide our brilliance. Below are 3 tips to help you to release your brilliance.


Release Your Brilliance

1) Embrace Your Intellectual Nature. Don’t be scared to show your I.Q. Don’t downplay your intelligence. If people are intimidated by your intelligence then eventually they will be compelled to raise the bar or walk away. If they walk let them walk.

2) Love What You Love. Never make excuses for what you love. The things you love make you who you are unapologetically.

3) Shine. Never lose your sparkle. Your sparkle is needed in a dark world so continue to shed light.